CHEATING - CAUSES OF
As long as there
have been men and women and as long as they have been dating, we
have been engaged in this debate: When you are in a monogamous
relationship, what constitutes cheating? Where do you draw that
line? And is there a gray area?
There was a time when cheating had a simple definition; like the
kind of the Scarlet Letter. But nowadays, both men and women are
more complex and less tolerant of betrayal of any sort in a
committed relationship. And when it comes to men and women, we
probably differ vastly when it comes to what we perceive as
So, off come the gloves – here are seven relationship traps that you
may or may not define as infidelity. It's up to you to decide
Confiding in a
Friend of the Opposite Sex
Most guys would probably say
no way is this cheating. They
may understand that their girlfriends are delicate,
that need to talk things out to death. And better with some other
poor guy than with himself, right?
But, many women actually feel threatened by their man confiding in
friend of the opposite sex. Connecting with another woman on an
emotional level can be even worse than connecting on a sexual level.
What do you need to say to this other woman that you cannot share
with your girlfriend? It has been called emotional cheating and it
can be more hurtful than one night of torrid, drunken sex with an
anonymous woman from the bar.
In many cultures, dancing is considered a very sensual act. That's
why so many people probably think dance clubs are a great place to
This is one that most guys and girls can see eye to eye on. If you
are at a nightclub, grinding sexually with someone other than your
significant other, there is bound to be trouble.
Flirting is such a natural act between men and women. Most confident
individuals, in a secure and comfortable relationship don't mind
their man/woman joking around or engaging in a little innocent
flirting. Admit it, you probably do it all the time.
But if the conversations are sexual and the flirting is with the
intent of eventually "getting some," then you have definitely
crossed the line.
Going to Strip
There are some people who think that going to a strip club in and of
itself constitutes cheating. But there are those who are more
accepting and will allow their partner to enjoy a guys or girls
night out at the rippers.
The problem arises when your committed boyfriend/girlfriend pays to
touch a stripper. If you have to go to a strip joint to touch
another person sexually, then there's a problem with the
relationship. I think it is cheating, no doubt... Then again, I'm a
Getting on the Internet and engaging in cyber sex ranks high on the
cheating scale in pretty much everyone's book. It is hurtful to know
that your partner is so unsatisfied sexually with you that he/she
needs to talk dirty to a computer screen to get off. What's the
point of talking to a blank, inhuman face when you can have the real
thing right at home?
But then again, is there a direct correlation between your sex life
and the desire to have cyber sex?
Although it might be upsetting to know that your significant other
has a fetish for watching pornographic movies, many of us would not
consider it cheating. Women know that men enjoy watching porn and
that it is an act that is completely separate from the relationship.
There is no live "other woman" threatening the relationship. It is
merely a sexual fantasy or maybe a way for men to learn hot moves
for you in the bedroom.
Engaging in a
If I have to debate this one for you, you're a lost cause. All of us
who aren't in one of those trendy "open relationships" consider
kissing, caressing, licking, or having sex with another person
This is one you can't argue your way out of. It is the ultimate act
of infidelity and a sure way to end your monogamous relationship.