SELF HELP - THE POWER
OF THINKING POSITIVE
self-help book on the market have one thing in common - expressing
the importance of being positive to increase your happiness and
There have been
many studies done on the power of positive thought and the
conclusions show a mass amount of health benefits, without having to
take medication! Positive thinking has been proven to reduce stress,
help people live longer, and improve your overall well-being and
ability to cope.
So if it is that
simple, then why aren't we living in a society of total bliss and
happiness? The answer is that
no one, you nor I, wants to admit that they are negative.
And if you can't admit that you are negative then how can you ever
change your lifestyle to being positive?
In Online Dating
Magazine's article about online dating profile tips, the #1 tip is
to avoid negativity in your profile. Whether it is "I'm lonely" or
"my last boyfriend was a jerk" these types of statements turn people
off, making it easy to bypass your profile for one where a person
seems more in tune with life, and himself/herself.
negativity shouldn't just be an issue for your profile. It should be
an issue for your life. And with that in mind, here are seven steps
to help you turn negativity into positive thinking:
Step 1: Admit
You Are Negative
The first step to changing your life is to admit that you are
negative or that you have negative thoughts. Whether talking about a
coworker behind his/her back or believing you "can't" do something;
these contribute to a non-healthy lifestyle.
Step 2: Be
Determined to be Positive
Once you've admitted you are negative, or at least have some
negative tendencies, you can resolve to changing the way you think.
Become conscious of your daily thoughts and when a negative thought
enters your mind, quickly turn it around. Instead of "I don't think
I can do that," think "I love a new challenge and will conquer this
one" or "I can do this no matter how hard it is." Instead of "I'll
do this later," think "By getting this done now I can have it
accomplished." Eliminate words like "can't" from your vocabulary and
replace them with "can". Start to say positive things about other
people. Start to think
positive things about other people. "Wow, that was really nice what
he/she did." When presented the opportunity to comment on someone
else, refrain from saying anything bad.
Step 3: Remove
Yourself From Negative Influences
Your environment begins to reflect who you are after time. Thus if
you have friends or coworkers you hang out with who are always
griping about their job, boss, or life then begin to slowly weed out
that group of people and seek out those who are positive and don't
talk about others behind their back. When you replace a negative
environment with a positive one, you make huge strides in improving
Step 4: Replace
Cola with Water
The healthiest beverage you can drink is water. And by replacing
chemical and sugar-filled drinks with water, you will make massive
improvements to your health. First of all, you are eliminating the
sugar and caffeine that are so addicting, yet bad for overall
health. Second, you are increasing your water intake. Chemical-free
natural water will help improve your energy, eliminate toxins from
your body, make your skin more healthy looking, and improve your
mental performance. How can you not help but become more positive
with such changes to your life?! Drink lots of water - it is the
true "miracle vitamin".
Step 5: Stop
Watching the News
Murder. Rape. Fraud. War. Daily news is often filled with nothing
but negative stories and when you make reading such material a part
of your daily lifestyle, you begin to be directly affected by that
environmental factor. If you still need a dose of news, then tune
into a station or site that features "Good News". Check out this
Happy News Web site and this Good News Blog.
Step 6: Learn
Meditating allows you to clear your mind, lower stress, become more
focused, and stay positive. It's a very positive and powerful
medium. By taking just 15 minutes a day to meditate, you'll find
yourself handling time and stress much better. You'll also gain a
more positive outlook on life.
Step 7: Spread
Your Positiveness to Others
Put your new positive thinking lifestyle into action. Take time out
to write down the top 10 things you love about your partner and give
that list to him/her. When you experience good customer service,
take time to write a note or e-mail expressing your gratitude.
Practice spreading your positiveness to others and it will grow.
When you allow
yourself to become immersed in positive thinking, you will start to
see it affect other aspects of your life. For example, instead of
feeling "inconvenienced" by merging traffic, you'll allow someone to
easily merge in front of you and feel great about it. They might
even wave or mouth "thank you". At a grocery store when you have a
cart full of groceries and the person behind you has only one or two
items you may find yourself saying, "please go ahead of me since you
only have a few items" and that person's gratitude will make your
day. You'll find yourself actively thinking about others and your
contribution to their positive experiences will have a huge affect
on your eternal happiness.