HOW TO HANDLE A BREAK
UP AFTER YOU GET DUMPED
So, you have been dumped. While you
are well aware that you are better off without him or her, there is
an aching pain in your heart that misses them and wishes you were
still together. Perhaps you just miss the routine and convenience of
doing things together and don’t know how to keep yourself occupied.
Unfortunately, many of us tend to make mistakes when trying to get
over a recent break up. This not only prolongs the recovery process
but also makes it even more heart breaking to deal with. Figuring
out how to manage your time after getting dumped is crucial in order
to have a quick recovery and move on with your love life. These
lessons are important to follow, so breaking up isn’t so hard to do.
Breakup Tip #1
Do not: shut yourself away
from your friends.
While you may be tempted to lock yourself in a room and listen to
sad breakup music, resist the urge. It is also not a good idea to
call his or her cell phone to listen to the recorded message
repeatedly, or listen to ‘your song.’
Friends can provide supportive advice and make you smile even at
your most depressed times. By shutting yourself away in your bedroom
you will only elevate your emotional status and feel sorry for
Give your friends a chance to take you out and talk about it.
Whether it is a trip to an ice-cream parlor or to a dance club, a
change of scenery can take your mind off your recent breakup.
Sometimes friends and fun are the only way to take your mind off
Remember, everyone has been through rejection at some point in their
life and talking about your experiences with people you trust can
make hard times more tolerable.
Breakup Tip #2
Do: Hide old pictures and banish the stuffed animals he/she gave to
This step involves distancing yourself from the symbols that
represent your relationship. On top of that, organize all the e
mails you sent to one another in a separate folder, titled ‘ignore.’
If you really want to, you can even delete them.
All these items did at one point have sentimental value; however,
now you must move on. This step isn’t possible unless you let go of
some memories. It isn’t necessarily to burn the pictures of your
happy couple days but piling them into a shoe box out of your direct
view will help you forget about your ex-partner. Some degree of
separation is fundamental in moving on with your life. If you keep
staring at pictures of the happy couple days, you will only be
reminiscing about the past – unable to move on to the future.
Breakup Tip #3
Do not: Throw eggs at his car, kidnap her dog or leave nasty
messages on his answering machine.
Okay, so that may be a little more than you would do anyway, but you
get the idea.
Being mature is a difficult task when dealing with a breakup.
However, regardless of how the relationship ended, refrain from
scheming creative ways to make their life miserable. Getting dumped
sucks, but try to look at the situation from a positive perspective:
If your partner didn’t really care about you, then the relationship
was not worth it and it’s time to move on with your love life.
Now, put the cap back on the permanent marker and move away from his
Breakup Tip #4
Do: Give new people a chance to get to know you.
Everyone needs a transition
period of being alone after a breakup. This is often referred to as
being ‘on the rebound.’ However, dwelling on your past breakup for
too long can make you feel lonely and depressed. During the recovery
process, sometimes the sooner you meet another partner, the sooner
you can forget about what happened in the past and give love another
Spending your evenings alone, in fear of being dumped again is not
only a waste of time but it also gives your former mate the
satisfaction to observe that you are still heartbroken. Getting back
into the dating world is an important step in moving on with your
After dealing with a breakup, you might be more selective in the
type of man/woman you are looking for and your standards might be
elevated to a new level. Good for you! Use the experience and
everything you have learned about yourself to meet someone who is
perfect for you.
Remember love takes time
Letting your heart heal takes time, especially after a heart
wrenching breakup. Keep in mind that we are all strong enough to
easily recover from a breakup if we truly have the desire to move
Men and women often spend too much time figuring out what went wrong
in their past relationship. Forget about vandalizing his new
convertible or kidnapping her new puppy. Instead, concentrate on
what to wear to the singles bar tonight.