WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR
For most couples,
whether married or in a long-term relationship, it can be a
difficult transition once the "honeymoon" stage is over. The initial
lust and butterflies in the stomach you once felt may have given way
to a more laid-back, comfortable feeling with your significant
other. It is normal for long-standing relationships to cool down
after a while and this is when the real relationship building
A good partnership is like tending to a pet - either you feed and
nurture it, or bad things will happen. The small things you do
become important. Daily habits help to forge strong relationships
and marriages. It can be as simple as remembering to tell your
partner "I love you," everyday.
If you are really serious about making your relationship work, there
are several little rituals that you can incorporate into your daily
Talk To Each Other
Most relationship experts would agree that talking is the most
important elements of a healthy partnership. Happy couples typically
say their relationship works better when they can sit down
one-on-one, share their feelings and work out their frustrations.
Topics of discussion can extend past your relationship. Talk about
work, how your day is going, or something funny that happened to
Many couples may complain that it is hard to find time in their busy
day to have a daily couple's pow-wow. Well, it doesn't have to be an
hour-long psych session each day. You simply have to set aside a few
minutes for your special someone. For example, do a "weather" check
during the day. Call your partner at home or at work to see how
his/her day is going. By doing this, you will be more in sync when
you reconnect after work.
If you have a pet dog, how about walking it together every night?
The quiet time and fresh air can be your chance to focus on each
other. If you have missed each other during the day, be sure to
catch up at night right before going to bed. It is in this relaxed
atmosphere that you can unwind and tell your partner about your busy
When you live together, you may automatically think you know
everything about your lover. In reality though, it is very easy for
life to get in the way if you don't take the time to connect with
Flirting isn't just for teenagers and couples on their first date.
Part of a healthy sexual relationship involves flirting with each
other everyday. And it doesn't just have to be a form of foreplay.
Even on the nights when you are just too doggone tired to be
intimate in bed, flirting can be a fun way to keep the zest in your
Don't be embarrassed about flirting in public either. Show off the
strength of your relationship with a little PDA (public displays of
affection). Walk hand in hand and try to steal a quick hug or kiss
whenever you can. Most importantly, don't forget to say "I love
you," as much as possible throughout the day.
Be Silly Together
Life is serious enough. Sometimes you just need to do something
really silly. And if you can't do it with your significant other,
who can you be silly with? When you find the time, try reliving your
childhood by visiting an amusement park. Go on all the scary rides
and eat all the sweets you can until your stomach can take no more.
For a daily ritual that you and your partner can share at home, try
playing a game of Twister. The contorted positions you will find
yourselves in will have you laughing in no time. Or kick back and
watch a funny TV show that both of you enjoy. Whatever you do, the
important thing is to laugh and have fun together.
Declare Your Independence
Remember that healthy relationships are made up of two independent
people who have their own personalities and interests. It's not good
for the relationship to be constantly joined at the hip. So also
make a daily habit of getting away from each other. Peruse your own
hobbies and interests.
Doing things separately gives you a chance to fill in the blanks
that your partner may not be able to fill for you. For example, if
one of you likes sports and the other likes the arts, use your alone
time to go to the gym or enroll in a painting class. At the end of
your day, you will find that you have more to talk about. It will
help bring freshness to the relationship, as you both continue to
grow as people.
Cultivate Common Interests
Along with developing your personal interests, apart from one
another, it is also essential to find something you can do together.
The emphasis is on finding an activity you can both enjoy. Although
your definition of fun may be going shopping, he may not enjoy being
If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. Try
working out at the gym together. Or take some classes together until
you find something you both like. Maybe you'll both fall in love
with cooking and connect each night by preparing dinner together.