HOW TO KNOW THAT YOUR
GIRLFRIEND WILL SOON DUMP YOU
Given the natural
variation of human beings when it comes to their actions, beliefs
and tastes, it is tricky to pin down specific reasoning behind
While women cling
to the belief that men's actions are downright indecipherable, I
don't believe we women are much easier to navigate. That being said,
any man deserves a cheat sheet when it comes to finding out if his
girlfriend wants out of their relationship.
Knowing our capacity for mood swings and PMS induced outbursts, it
may be hard to tell whether we've had a bad day, or we just really
want to get out. If anything, you'll avoid a situation that too
closely resembles Matt Damon dumping Minnie Driver on national
She's Distant – all the time
We all experience moments of distraction, but when your partner is
in a constant state of unavailability, it might be a clue to her
desire for a break. Many women feel guilty about wanting to break
off a relationship and may choose to ignore those inclinations by
It's often easier to be confrontational when fighting about the
relationship, if the underlying belief is that you're fighting for
the greater good of the relationship itself. If she's given up all
hope of saving the union, making eye contact with you and giving you
her full attention will only act as reminders of the now-futile
Essentially, the longer she avoids you, the longer she gets to avoid
having that final "talk." Everyone hates the talk.
She's Uninterested in Sex
Unless she really, really enjoys sex, it's very likely that the
action between the sheets will wane. Many women have issues
separating the emotional aspects of sex from the physical aspects of
sex, and therefore may be not be inclined to get physical with
someone they are starting to abhor.
If she never really enjoyed sex and only engaged in it to please you
– yes, this can be the case sometimes – she certainly won't be
willing to do so now that her interests have flown elsewhere. If the
idea of breaking your heart is painful to her, she won't want to
engage in an act defined by intimate coupling.
She Criticizes you
Whether she criticizes you in the name of saving the relationship,
or just to annoy you, either action can be dubbed typical of a woman
who wants out. Very much like men, there are some women who will
willingly adopt undesirable traits with the hope that their partner
will take it upon themselves to call it quits. This saves the woman
(or man) from having to cope with the confrontation of breaking up
and the guilt associated with being the perpetrator.
No one enjoys being criticized and she knows that sooner or later,
you'll get fed up and crack.
She Starts Dating Someone Else
While this might appear ridiculously obvious, it is undertaken for
the sake of those boyfriends who just can't seem to comprehend that
the relationship is over and done with. Women who immediately take
up with another man after the breakup (or even during its final
moments) are without a doubt screaming at you, "it's over!" They're
hoping against hope that the physical presence of another man will
cause send the message that anything between the two of you is done
This category also applies to women who are in fact, cheating.
Emotionally unfulfilled or tired of your own cheating, women are
almost as likely as men to seek their fulfillment elsewhere. While
men might attribute their wandering eyes to spontaneous bursts of
testosterone, women are more inclined to gain something from their
forbidden relationship, whether it's revenge or genuine attraction
to another man.
She says She Doesn't Want to See you Anymore
Again a possible no-brainer, there are an assortment of women who
will bite the bullet and come right out and say they want to end it.
Complications arise when you, the man, start to believe you can save
the relationship or change drastically in order to make it function
smoothly. But if your girlfriend had the courage to sit down with
you – and didn't break up with you over the phone, by e-mail or by
text message – chances are she's pretty serious about sticking to
it. It might be a good idea to respect her decision.
Of course, all bets are off when she waltzes on up to you at the bar
the week after, drunk as a skunk, and whispers dirty things in your
ear. Ex-girlfriend etiquette is a whole other ball game.