HOW TO MAKE A MAN
FALL DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH YOU
There is a lot of
talk among women about finding Mr. Right, and there seems to be a
common consensus that finding him is a near impossible task. A Woman
who is perceived to have found him is envied and bombarded with
questions as to how she landed him. The problem with this Mr. Right
theory is that it implies that women are automatically Ms. Rights.
Unfortunately, this is not true. We are not all wonderful, innocent,
drama-free damsels waiting patiently for our Mr. Right. Itís hard to
admit, but women are capable of doing just as much lying, cheating,
and gaming as men.
If you expect to
find a man that is free from game- playing, lying, cheating, and
deceiving, be committed to being that kind of person yourself. Make
a conscious effort to treat others with respect. Decide to be open
and honest with others, decide to share and give of yourself, and
decide to live up to the truthfulness and righteousness in which you
believe. The closer you move toward becoming Ms. Right the sooner
you will attract Mr. Right because people of like mines, words, and
deeds are drawn to one another.
I remember when I realized
that the game playing in my life had to stop. I moved to a new city
with the belief that if I got away from the bad influences in my
life (i.e. ďbad menĒ) everything would be great. However, within one
month of living in my new city I had attracted the same old drama. I
quickly realized that although my environment had changed I had
stayed the same, and had created all the same turmoil within a very
short period of time.
I began the slow and steady
progression toward being a better person. Two years later I married
a great man, and we have been in a twelve- year marriage that is
sincere, respectful, and free of game playing. Not to imply that we
have not hurt each other because we have. Itís hard to avoid hurting
each other in any relationship. However, we come together in respect
and honesty to work out our problems, and try really hard to be the
best we can be for each other. We own our emotions, and share how we
feel with the knowledge that it may get ugly at times, but we can
get through it.
Stirring it up:
Observe how you interact with the men in your life. Think about what
you might be with holding, hiding, sneaking, lying about, cheating,
and the games you may be playing. In your heart, you will recognize
right from wrong because God made it so. The next time you feel like
what you are about to do is wrong do not give in. Do what is right!
Then ask yourself what motivated you to want to do wrong. Why did
you feel justified to do the wrong thing? It is not because you are
a bad person it probably has more to do with emotions like fear,
anger, frustration, envy or disappointment. Remember it is okay to
feel these emotions because God made them, but it is not okay to
react destructively because of what you feel.